Not enjoying high school. Hated that fking place lol
being extremely fucking transgender
waow based asf
not having kids. I still think it was the right decision for me
getting a hysterectomy. this last year has proven that my foresight was indeed correct, the post right above this one is an article about the government planning to reduce or remove access to contraceptives, and no way in hell is anyone gonna make me be pregnant. i was extremely lucky to find a surgeon who would do it since i have no kids and was under thirty at the time.
It is extremely concerning how many surgeons are happy to sterilize men on request, but push back HARD when women ask. I’ve talked to several women in this exact situation, it’s like if you’re under 30 and don’t have 5 kids you must not have any idea what you want and you lose agency over your own body. One friend who wanted this had surgeons demanding a permission slip from her husband. What the fuck? Does her body belong to him? I find this situation abhorrent. Your body your choice end of story. And if you regret the consequences that’s on you, not your doctor. And SHOULD NOT BE your doctor’s job to dictate your life plans
As a man who’s been very sure he wanted to remain childfeee since his teens: most surgeons won’t sterilize men on request either. I was told several times to come back after I was married with at least three kids. Had to move to the literal opposite corner of the country to a place where Planned Parenthood isn’t under constant assault to get a vasectomy after decades of chasing one.
Wow. That’s unreal. If I may ask were you trying to do a vasectomy (which can often be reversed) or something more permanent?
A vasectomy, mostly. I did try to get into some studies for things like IVD, but that never materialized either.
I was shocked at how easy it was when I got to the NW and just…walked into a Planned Parenthood and scheduled the appointment.
Florida in the late 90s/early 00s was very “unreal”, but it’s gotten worse every time I’ve gone back to visit.
There was a quote something like no matter how bad life gets religion can always be counted on to make it worse.
my surgeon has your mindset and i trust her with my life. she also said if i decide to start T she manages transgender care as well. a few months ago i even saw her on a youtube ad advocating for womens rights and body autonomy. i just hope she doesnt leave the area, as a lot of doctors do here.
Not having kids.
On my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn’t just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he’d take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I’d regret it when I’m an adult that I don’t have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I’m 40 and I don’t regret it. Love that photo.
When I was a kid I went through the boxes that held all the family photos and threw away the ones of me, there is now very little physical evidence I existed at all up in till the mid 90s.
“stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows”
Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.
Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn’t something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn’t been too significant of a problem so far either.
I’ve been running some Linux servers for fun, at my last job we also had quite a few. The only admin quit, no documentation. Guess who got a big salary increase because he was the only one with the knowledge required to keep this shitshow running? Yep, that’s me.
Thanks to past me for installing every distro under the sun and sinking years into the commandline, shell scripting, web and mail servers just for the thrill. Linux is awesome.
Ymmv depending on where you are. I was happily employed in the Unix space until I moved to Seattle.
Becoming atheist
Spending so much time at the computer
That one takes time to catch up with you.
Intermittent touching grass is essential. ;)
Yeeees
Same! My parents were so worried about how much time I spent at the computer. Now it’s my day job (computer programmer).
Anal
Never trying alcohol or drugs or cigarettes or gambling. My whole life I’ve had a strong intuitive sense to avoid all that stuff, and I’ve never even had the slightest desire. When I was in the army my colleagues would tease me that eventually some day I would crack and give in to the dark side, but nah.
dropping out of highschool. best decision I ever made tbh
I’ve kicked myself in the ass over that decision a lot over the years. It’s far behind me now, but I still kinda regret it.
Not moving out. In Germany there’s still a bit of a stigma around living with your parents past your mid-20s but when I see what’s currently going on with, you know, the housing market I’m glad I made that decision. I might have been a bit too lazy as well…
Plus I was able to save a bunch of money because of that, which is gonna come in handy for my move to Australia in September.
I wonder how your parents feel about that
In terms of living with my mum? She doesn’t mind; I do pay her a bit every month to compensate as well.
In terms of moving? My dad doesn’t care, I have a feeling that he wouldn’t even come to visit me. My mum obviously both doesn’t really want me to go and wants me to live my own life so she’s ultimately fine with it.
Honestly, living with my mum hasn’t been easy for the last year. There’s just so much petty drama happening between her, my sister and anyone who they think wrongs them (I won’t go into detail but it’s bad); so it’ll be great to get away from that.
That’s far faaar from my only reason to move to Australia, mind you.
I’ve accepted that my daughter probably won’t be able to get her own place once she’s done school. I’m OK with it, would rather she have that option than be potentially pressured into a toxic relationship to afford to live.
How’d you get approved for that? I thought Australia was very locked down for immigration
I didn’t get approved for anything yet but getting a 417 visa shouldn’t be that hard AFAIK and from there you just have to get lucky and be sponsored for a 482 visa by an employer, after that you can get permanent residency on the 186 visa, after 2 years with the same employer. Aaand from there it’s just another year until you can apply for citizenship.
Pretty straightforward, albeit a bit tedious…
30% of the population of Australia was born outside Australia.
Immigration is straightforward (although maybe expensive) if you can get one of the skilled migration visas.
Leaving proprietary software.
Yes. I keep hearing how Microsoft or Apple or Google is about to do something I shouldn’t miss. And they (the unmissable things) keep being kind of big nothings.
Not playing football, or being interested it it at all.
