Others have offered fantastic advice, I’m not going to add anything from personal experience. I will share this link: https://fs.blog/david-foster-wallace-this-is-water/

Reading this isn’t going to change your life, but I find it very helpful to reframe how you think about life. It deals more with the long term impact of having a full time job, outside of work in a way that worked for my brain. Hopefully you find it helpful but it’s not a single solution.

I’m not doing this to try and call you out, but I am curious - what link are you making here if it isn’t “sexual preference embarrassing”?

Seeing the public reaction to some of the military adjacent cases over the past few years has been incredibly disheartening (e.g. McBride)

Hell, as a human I’ll take that deal. When can I move in?

Good point, but is it chicken or egg?

I think a lot of cities with truly good public transit developed as walking cities. The population was first, and the transit came after. Not always true - look at Barcelona - but my city (Melbourne Australia) is pretty cleanly defined into the part that developed before everyone had a car (radiating train lines serviced by trams), and areas that came after (radiating train lines serviced by buses, or not serviced at all).

Say W really slowly out loud and count the syllables. Where do you live that W isn’t three syllables?