No problem.

I’ll add one other thing: Others have mentioned couples therapy. This is a great idea. Even if the relationship is already over, worst case scenario is they both gain some insight into their own toxic behavioural patterns to make their next relationship better.

No one teaches you how to have a relationship. So people just kind of default into patterns that are often toxic.

It’s why taking a step back and being deliberate about how to communicate is so important. There needs to be a shared understanding and deliberateness about how to intentionally communicate.

And it needs to be something that applies equally to everyone involved. No copouts, no special circumstances that only go one way, there need to be firm, hard rules with specific consequences that apply evenly to all involved that are arrived at communally, and not unilaterally.

It takes two to tango.

The defensive lashing out type stuff happens because he hasn’t established firm boundaries around it. And she’s probably lashing out about stuff because… Well. Doesn’t matter, really.

There need to be firm boundaries about how to have a discussion that apply evenly to both of them. Both of them need to buy into these rules. When the lines are crossed the discussion ends.

This isn’t about shutting down a discussion but having the awareness to recognize constructive versus destructive discussions.

Setting reasonable, adult boundaries and rules, sticking to them, and establishing that certain behaviours are problematic are the only way this gets better.

If she’s unable to recognize her own defensiven ss as a problem and work on it all of this falls apart but having the framework in place will allow transparency into the why of it.

Agreed.

Reading the article, even when they’re taking responsibility they’re still not taking responsibility.

“It’s my fault, but that’s because it’s everyone else’s fault”

My religion is “keep your religion dar the fuck away from me”.

I believe in freedom from religion even more strongly than of religion

I love porn. Like. I’ve watched porn for 30+ years.

At no point have I ever thought: “let’s talk to people online about porn” or “let’s share porn I enjoy with other people” or “wow, it would be great if I could find porn of younger people”.

Everything this article talks about is fucking unfathomable to me.

If you are looking at CSAM it’s probably because YOU’RE A FUCKING PEDO. I’m sure there are varying degrees of that but I just don’t. Fucking. Get it.

It isn’t porns fault you’re a twisted fuck…And not once, ever, in 30 odd years of watching porn (ive definitely seen some out there shit but never anything illegal) have I randomly stumbled across CSAM.

This isn’t a fucking conspiracy. Porn isn’t a fucking gateway drug to CSAM. No one is going on pornhub and accidentally viewing images of eight year olds.

People access this shit because they fucking want to.

So. I have had some recent experiences that have been… Very educational about a lot of the less thought aspects of technology that most people take for granted. H Most faraday bags you can buy are fucking garbage. None of them hurt in the grand scheme of things but they more involved this but I can’t do calculus so feel free to do the math). At around the 5 and 6 ghz range (guess what frequency wifi 6 and 5g operate at?) the gap size in a faraday cage needs to be something like 1-2mm.

Of course you’re not talking about a farDy cage, but a shielded bag. So buy one, close it with the Velcro clasp, and ask yourself: how snug is sealed Velcro? How much can I roll this up? And all the other myrad questions that lead to the same fucking conclusion: this is not the radio blocking solution you thought it was.

This isn’t to say you can’t buy a faraday bag that works (even if it does you may need more than one) it’s that as the frequency it gets increasingly difficult to block the signals coming in and out.

And I don’t understand the math, at all, but I’m not sure how the power of a signal would effect a faraday bag. Like.im assuming it would but.

Anyway…my point is: if you’re bringing a faraday make very, very, very,VERY fucking sure it actually works.

How do you do that? I’m not 100% be t I’m pretty sure the equipment needed is complicated and expwnaive.

Someone more knowledgeable can expand on any of this, . Since everything I’ve learned on the subject has been severely limited by the fact that the Internet is a fucking wasteland.

I haven’t read any of this research because, like, the only feelings I have about pedophiles are outright contempt and a small amount of pity for the whole fucking destructive evilness of it all, but I’ve been told having access to drawings and images and whatnot makes people more likely to act on their impulses.

And like. I don’t think images of CSAM in any form, no matter how far removed they are from real people, actually contribute anything worthwhile st all yo the world, so like. I dunno.

Really couldn’t give two squirts of piss of about anything that makes a pedophiles life harder. Human garbage.

Happy to share google drive link to you priv1ately if you’d like.

I opened my smart TV and removed the Bluetooth/WiFi PCI card that was inside it.

Good fucking luck connecting to something you privacy invading piece of shit.

We already do.

Its stupid easy, in fact.

Like. Total time of actual configuration for replacing all the faces and voices in the Empire Strikes back with my face and my voice was like 3 hours.

I pirate everything. Because fuck you that’s why.

You’re not from America are you?

I ask this because you seem to actually grasp what’s happening.

The issue isn’t that the parties are the same. It is that neither should be in power. And you’re all too fucking brainwashed to realize the only way out of this mess without violent revolution is a third party gaining power. And even with, probably.

I’m of two minds about this.

Like. If you’re present in another country on a student Vida you’re essentially a guest and a certain level of respect, and gratitude, I feel, is important for that privilege. Even if the right to protest is guaranteed for that country’s citizens you are not citizens.

That being said I think our shared duty to do the right thing should bear more weight than any sense of obligation or hospitality.

Given the long dick of the US, rising racist sentiment, and the personal risk it takes to put yourself on the line for a greater cause, I think protesting is probably the right thing even if it is kind of rude.

For better or worse activism can be a big part of campus life and I don’t think a culture of fear is conducive to a healthy academic sphere.

When I was in uni I was constantly dodging massive protests / counter protests from Israelis / Palestinians, having lectures interrupted. It annoyed the hell out of me at the time but in hindsight I’m grateful to have lived in a place where people could fight for their views, even if they supported Israel and were stupid dipshits.

Fucking chodes

I pirate literally everything.

I used yt-dlp and downloaded a shitload of old commercials once and I stick then in a random playlist to get the full TV effect. Never know what’ll be on.

From the bottom of my heart, to everyone involved in the production of any kind of media: I hope you fall face into a fifty deep wishing well full of human shit and erect dicks.

And if you are?

Pm me if you feel like ripping your hair out and putting a whole in the wall with your face. Which I often did. I can try and help. Though there are probably better options

Is there a place to put comments like this? Some kind of “how to lose an argument” community?

If you disagree with the numbers you can argue them coherently. Like, that’s how facts work. If there are issues with the data you make a compelling argument by pointing them out. Data doesn’t give a fuck about your feelings, refusing to contribute meaningfully to the argument doesn’t make you superior, it makes you look like an idiot, and doubling down on your refusal to engage meaningfully with the content makes you look even dumber.

You have time to hand wave away shit you don’t agree with but don’t have time to make.a cogent argument? You’re too good for.it.all when you’re called out for it? Is it maybe because.you don’t understand economics?

Because I sure as fuck don’t. But I do understand that its a real academic.discipline that involves lots of real math that I also.don’t understand. And while I take most.of what I read on the internet with a grain of salt people in this thread that do appear to understand some of those things are indicating this Dara is likely correct. And those arguing that it isnt don’t appear to be able to articulate why.

So my own conclusion is that there’s probably.something to this. But it doesnt really matter if there is or isnt, really, because I’ll never do anything with the info. Still, I choose to see this as a glimmer of.hope in troubling times.

Although if you are able to articulate your “all economics.is bullshit” theory, I’m pretty sure the many many doctorate holders in economics would love to have you destroy their field of study. You could usher in a revolution in economics. You could create whole new academic.disciplines, and do to.economics.what the scientific method did to natural.philosophy. In that case, don’t you have an intellectual duty to lay out.your argument?

Unless of course its just hand waving bullshit.