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  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    16 days ago

    I mean it wouldn’t be as big of a deal if motherhood was supported properly. If a 19 y/o mother could take 6-8 months or even a year out of college then pick their program back up right where they left off, have plenty of childcare covered by either the state or by family who are doing well enough themselves, and plenty of healthcare for her and the kid, it wouldn’t be a big deal at all. Especially if it were normalized for men to also get and take paternity leave so academics and employers had less reason to discriminate.

    Realistically the very tail end of adolescence is the beginning of the sweet spot of when the body is mature enough to handle that we just don’t adequately socially support women at that point (or any other point but). The emotional maturity thing is meant to be supported by older community members. You’re supposed to be able to hand your little brat to a 40y/o who actually has patience to manage them safely when they won’t stop throwing tantrums and we’d have those people if they weren’t also working 80h weeks.

    If they really want women having children younger that’s 100% doable with adequate social support for mothers of all ages but they just wanna squeeze every last drop of “productivity” out of every part of this system then get pissy when women get stingy. Like statistics actually support that women make more babies when they feel safe to do so it’s literally that fucking simple but nooo












  • Apparently a hospital in my network is trialing a tool to generate assessment flowsheets based on an audio recording of a nurse talking aloud while doing a head to toe assessment. So if they say, you’ve got a little swelling in your legs it’ll mark down bilateral edema under the peripheral vascular section. You have to review before submitting but it seems nice.



  • I’ve spent my whole adulthood working in hospitals. They’re shitholes, every single last one of them. Do every single thing you can to never be in one.

    Drink water, plain water. Eat whole grains and leafy vegetables. Treat red meat like a dessert (and if you’re morally opposed to meat, make sure you’re still getting all your essential proteins). Find a physical activity you enjoy and do it at least three times a week. Either join an organized religion or specifically curate a group of people you do a weekly activity with who will come check on you if you suddenly stop showing up. And while you’re at it pick a mindfulness activity that you either enjoy or that brings you peace (prayer qualifies but so can yoga or a lot of other things). Avoid nicotine and alcohol at all costs. Go easy on the weed, and avoid anything more interesting without guidance from either a medical professional or some kind of traditional expert on those substances. And if a competent doctor listens to your specific situation and tells you to do or not do something I’ve mentioned, listen to them instead of me.

    Decide who you would want to speak for you on your death or near-deathbed. Choose people both trustworthy and level-headed who will put your wishes over their own emotions. Choose multiple people, because it’s not unlikely that any one person will be in the car wreck with you. Talk to those people about what you want to happen or not happen so they can best carry out your wishes. Sign some kind of legally binding paperwork that cements them as the decision maker, especially if your first choice is not the default the state would choose (parent, spouse, sibling, adult child, etc). You can write whatever you want then to do on the paper, but the chosen person will have the right to override it if they think you would want them to. So sign the paper but don’t forget to TALK to them about it.

    And good luck because while this will give you the best odds, the universe might also just decide to fuck you in particular anyway.